Have you ever found yourself thinking about where you are…
and where you thought you’d be by now?
You might feel energized and excited about what’s ahead…
—or you may feel anything but.
We’ve been taught to set goals.
To push forward.
To aim higher. 🎯
And don’t get me wrong — I LOVE goal setting.
But sometimes, even good things like goals can feel heavy…
especially if you’ve walked through loss, grief, disappointment, or shattered dreams.
For some of you, the most loving and wise plan forward isn’t a big goal at all.
It’s grace.
It’s rest.
It’s community.
It’s healing. 🤍
I call this being A.I.M. — Appropriate In the Moment.
Just because everyone around you is chasing big goals doesn’t mean that’s the right move for you right now.
When you’re carrying grief or heartache, life can feel heavy…
and at times, overwhelming.
***And for those of you who keep setting goals over and over — but still feel stuck — this may be for you too.
It’s easy to assume we just need more discipline or a better system.
But sometimes the issue isn’t willpower at all.
Sometimes it’s a heart issue — not in a shame-filled way, but in a human way.
Something unprocessed or unhealed that needs care before forward movement is possible.
And in those seasons, the most important “goal” may simply be this:
✨ to heal.
Here’s a verse I often return to in seasons like this — a reminder of Jesus’ heart toward those who are hurting: ❤️🩹
“The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me… He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted…” —Isaiah 61:1 (NIV)
We don’t have to convince Him to heal.
He is already willing.
Already near.
Already moving toward the brokenhearted.
If this is you, give yourself permission to slow down.
Receive His grace.
And allow yourself the time healing often requires. 🤍
But don’t do it alone.
God designed life — and healing — to happen in community.
“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” —Galatians 6:2 (NIV)
That may look like therapy, a support group, trusted friends, or simply letting safe people walk with you.
So take a quiet moment and check in with your heart.
Is healing the most appropriate next step for you right now?
Because when our hearts are hurting, it affects everything — especially our relationships.
As the saying goes…
“Hurt people, hurt people.”
But healed people?
God often uses them as part of how He brings healing to others.
And if you’re in a season where your heart and energy feel steady — where growth feels life-giving rather than draining —
👉 then step forward with confidence.
And if you’re still healing, that matters too.
You’re not behind.
You’re not late.
You’re right where you need to be. 🤍
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